The Bilerico Project tells how Clay and his partner of 20 years were treated and in the worst way possible.  Is the extent of gay hatred so bad that no laws protect us?  Is this the country that I served in the military for and forgave – for all her murderous, racist, sexist, rape of people’s souls – because she was going to be beautiful one day?

Was it because Florida got away with  preventing Lisa Pond and their children to be with her dying partner since they were a lesbian family?  Is it now a free for all on all gay people – when it comes to health care and our legal rights as a citizen in this God-forsaken country.

I’m having one of those moments where I think the only way to resolve anything is to destroy the bastards before they finish destroying us.  But then, my humanity stops me.  And then I have to apologize for thinking such vile thoughts.  There is a lesson here but I’m not sure what it is.  Read The Bilerico Project.  Maybe you can figure it out and explain it to me.

According to CNN, President Obama has asked the Department of Health and Human Services to establish a rule that would prevent hospitals from denying visitation privileges to gay and lesbian partners.  I say this: unless there are consequences to hospitals and governmental offices behaving this way, nothing will change.  Mr. President, we need to see some consequences to follow your words.  Otherwise, words are pretty but empty.

(I saw this link via Mary Anne Adams, on facebook).


Thank you, Rachel Maddow for doing what you do.  Ambassador to the US – Raymond Alcide Joseph speaks.  Please listen.

My question for today: When do the good Christians stop supporting the bad egg known as Pat Robertson?

Just when I wasn’t going to blog about anything but my writing, I read author Nicola Griffith’s blog.  She was trembling with rage. This is such a horrific display of cruelty, it can’t be ignored.

U.S. District Judge Adalberto Jordan dismissed a lawsuit yesterday, essentially finding that the Jackson Memorial Hospital was within its rights to leave a dying woman alone while denying her present and immediate family to visit her, be updated on her condition, or even to provide the hospital with medically necessary information.  Read more at Nicola Griffith.

After you read this horrific story, (Do items on Anne Zieger’s list shown below).

•Write firm, indignant letters protesting this injustice and copy them to each and every one of the non-administrative PR staff members on the list contained under this link:

•Write a similar firm, indignant letter (though more pointed regarding their responsibility for this mess) to each of the following Jackson Health System executives:

•Eneida O. Roldan, M.D., M.P.H., M.B.A.
President and Chief Executive Officer, Jackson Health System

•Frank J. Barrett
Executive Vice President and Chief Financial Officer

•Gerard A. Kaiser, M.D.
Executive Vice President, Chief Medical Officer, and Senior Associate Dean for Clinical Affairs

•Particularly if you’re local, and especially if you have similar stories of medical discrimination to share (leads to more coverage!) write a note to Miami Herald reporter John Dorschner, who’s been covering the health scene in Miami for 20-plus years. He’s at 

As Nicola states, we have to protect people state by state.  (I will not make any comments at this time about Federal dragging it’s feet). If you live in the state of Washington or know someone who lives there, make sure they get out and vote Approve Referendum 71 by November 3rd for Washington families.

My request :  If you are a member of a church, ask them to protest the cruel treatment of a dying woman and her family at Jackson Memorial Hospital.  Show the love I’ve heard you have.

Some say the fight about health care in the USA is really about racism while others say it is probably not about racism, because … Clinton wasn’t treated so well either.

Tim Wise, a prominent anti-racist writer and educator writes that racism is indeed a driving force behind the outpouring of anger we’ve been seeing at the various town halls around the country (USA), in opposition to health care reform and pretty much all things Obama.   To read his three points, visit Tim Wise here.

Tim Valentine writes his comments on people saying ‘its not always about race’ when explaining the on-going behavior at town hall meetings.  He asks, ‘if it isn’t about race, then what reason would anyone have to bring or tear up a poster of Rosa Parks?  To read more, visit Tim Valentine here.


One of the women thrown out by police tells what happened.


You be the judge.  Is it racism or simply political disagreement at its finest?  Did Bill Clinton experience the same type reaction from his American public?   Is there a really good reason for Americans to not want all Americans to have health care?

My opinion:  I’m in the group that says its racism.

Professor Chris Knight was suspended by the University of East London after his G20 comment was labeled a ‘threat’.  See Timesonline.

Years ago, when I researched the historical and cultural impact of menstruation, I met the anthropologist, Professor Chris Knight. His research is priceless and is not being produced by any other anthropologist in the world – as far as I know. As a woman, I was happy that someone was finally saying that women and menstruation is the basis for our evolution – and tells how and why.  For his valuable contribution to science, to history, to women and to the world, I offer my support. After getting to know Professor Knight personally, I also offer my support  because he is a decent, kind and good man who seeks a world of fairness for all.  In my book, that is never a bad thing. 

I have just read and signed the online petition:

“Reinstate Chris Knight “

which is hosted on the web by  I personally agree with what this petition says, and I think you might agree, too. If you can spare a moment, please take a look, and consider signing yourself.

If you are on facebook, please join this page

 Thanks for your support in reinstating Professor Chris Knight.

Thank you cyan for keeping me posted.

Moments ago, the California Supreme Court announced its deeply disappointing decision to uphold Proposition 8.

From The Courage Campaign

While we are pleased that the court recognized the legal marriages of the 18,000 same-sex couples married in 2008, we are saddened by the Prop 8 decision.

But we don’t have time to mourn the failure of the state court to restore marriage equality to California.

It’s time to go on offense. To be fearless in our fight for equality. Starting right now:  Go to Courage Campaign.

I’m in Atlanta right now and a rally is planned from 5:30pm to 10pm at Piedmont Park.  More protests will be happening throughout the nation.  

Thanks to Betty Couvertier for this link.

Topic: Why are the transgendered taboo? Why they are looked down upon?   

The 1×6 group is ABrownGirlAricia, BWABW, GlennishaMorgan, SteadyCat, and StudWithSwag, who come together every other Wednesday to answer one  question(s).

To 1×6:  Keep it clean even if you strongly disagree.  I don’t won’t any blood on my SoapBox. 🙂

Viewer comments are welcomed.


ABrownGirl:  I believe that most people don’t understand what it means to be transgendered. I  cannot imagine what it’s like to be inside a body that I hated. A body that I felt did  not truly represent who I am. A body that made society believe something about me  that wasn’t actually true. 

The majority of the transgendered community suffers with Gender Identity Disorder.  Yes, it is a mental condition, just like being bi-polar. It’s not a lifestyle they have  chosen, just like no one chose to be gay. 

It’s not something many people talk about, including those that suffer with the disorder. Quite possibly it is because we don’t know enough to really have an  intelligent discussion. The pyschological community isn’t really talking about the  results of their research. We don’t hear much in the news about transgendered rights.  And often times is hard to even spot a transgendered person. 

I think the transgendered community is looked down upon because there are people  out there that don’t understand them. There are people that believe they are being  deceived if they are being involved in a romantic relationship with a transgendered  individual. There are other people that don’t understand that it can be more  complicated than a man simply putting on a dress. 

While I’ve seen TransAmerica and Boy’s Don’t Cry, I didn’t truly understand what it meant to be transgendered until I met someone who was transgendered. That’s when it becomes real…


Aricia:  On this topic, I must say I’m a little disgusted. Although I’ve never understood the whole “I’m a woman trapped in a man’s body” mantra I don’t feel like its right for others to knock it. It all comes down to personal preference to me. 

How can people who are discriminated against for sleeping with the same sex then turn and dislike the transgendered? That’s jus absurd to me. I don’t personally feel like I was born the wrong sex, but I sympathize with those that do. Who the hell is perfect enough to knock someone elses choices?? 

I think they’re taboo because people are jus haters and love to pick out the flaws in others. If people want to change their sex and it ultimately makes them happy I say more power to them. 


BWABW:  People who look down on transgender individuals generally equate sex with gender when one is biological and the other is a social construction. My understanding of transgender people is that one’s sex does not align with one’s gender identity. Those who choose to transition and get gender reassignment surgery are aligning the physical with the psychological, emotional, spiritual, etc. A lot of the discrimination (and often times disgust) directed towards trans people comes from a place of ignorance. People fear what they don’t understand. They want things to fit neatly into a box. So a person with muscular legs, broad shoulders, and a five o’clock shadow in a dress is labeled “freaky” or “gross.” 
I won’t pretend to completely understand trans identity, but I completely respect others’ right to pursue a happy, healthy life. I used to question if being transgender is a “disorder” (many people do refer to it as this) and still wonder if it is society’s emphasis on genitalia (I mean, the first thing we scream when a baby is born is “It’s a boy!” or “It’s a girl!”) that pressures people who don’t identify as male or female to conform physically to what that societal prescriptions say a male and female should look/walk/sound like. If being born with a penis or a pussy was just as important/unimportant as being born with attached or unattached earlobes, then would transgender identities even exist? Or what if there was no such thing as masculine or feminine…would the physical still not align with the mental/emotional/spiritual/etc.? This is by no means an effort to trivialize trans identity or say that it is only mental. It’s me seeking a deeper understanding. Then again, there are stories of men and women who felt they were in the “wrong” body from childhood—way before gender norms have really begun to set in. 


Glennisha Morgan:  To be honest I don’t think  I can pinpoint exactly why the transgendered are taboo and looked down upon but, I have an idea.The transgendered as well as everyone else who is a part of the LGBT community are looked down upon because they’re misunderstood and or not understood at all. I think out of everyone the transgendered are probably the most misunderstood.I think where the most confusion takes place is when transgendered are post-op and they date someone of the sex that they turned into. 


StudWithSwag:  The transgendered are taboo because they deviate from the “normalcy” that gays and lesbians have been trying to project. They do not adhere to the norms of homosexuality, bisexuality, or heterosexuality because they have an actual diagnosed condition that they may or may not get medically corrected at some point in life. Homosexuality was once diagnosed in the DSM as a disorder as well, but it is no longer, however transgender remains a medical disorder and condition. Those affected believe there is something wrong with their gender, which includes their sexuality and this viewpoint is in stark contrast to what most homosexuals believe. After the surgery, they can finally be comfortable in their own body and live their lives as straight, gay or bisexual. Many change their names and can get legally married in most states. I believe the taboo is that they are considered odd by society because they are so uncomfortable in their own skin that they will willingly undergo a transformation. Most people can’t understand this, yet gays are still inclusive because they are similar to us in their sexual orientations. A lot of times they are involved in same sex relationships prior to or after a change, so this is considered strange by society as well. It’s a physical difference compared to a sexual one and they have a hard enough time trying to accept homosexuality.


SteadyCat:  When I was around ten and visiting cousins that lived in Florida, our group of girls and boys from the neighborhood went walking. Further up the road, a boy about fifteen had on hot pants, a short shirt so that his midriff was revealed and make up. That is exactly how many teen girls dressed at the time.  My older male cousin (Richard) and his friends picked up bricks and started throwing. When the largest brick barely missed the boy’s head, he took off running and screaming.  Everyone in the group laughed but me.  Richard is now a minister in his own church.

Churches, schools, families, entertainment and politics have taught a model that they claim reflects morality/Godliness.  It must have a man as head of a household, a woman as his helper and hordes of children. He has both sex and power over. The model we’re being indoctrinated with is patriarchy at its finest.  According to, patriarchy’s chief institution is the family. It is both a mirror of and a connection with the larger society; a patriarchal unit within a patriarchal whole. 

In church I was taught that the immoral/ungodly must be eradicated or Satan would take over. Gays are thought to fit this picture of ungodliness but the transgendered person becomes an even bigger target. (Unless they have sneaked into the club without being noticed. In that case, they get perks). The correction for the simple minded becomes – in order to save God, my family and my status – I must destroy the ungodly.

Ask your church going family, friends and politicians what they think about the transgendered and why. Ask the relative that watches televangelist programming what they think about the transgendered and why. It will probably all boil down to the myth of the ungodly.  Patriarchy depends on it.


The next 1×6 will be held on May 13 at  Aricia,

The Question: What do you think about corrective rape in South Africa and its human rights consequences?

Thank you for stopping by SteadyCat’s SoapBox and checking out 1×6.


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